She's trying to be nice. So she's not "breaking up", but "taking a break". She's rewording to ease the transition. Almost every single girl who has dumped someone has said "I still want to be friends".
It's a girl thing I guess, something to soften the blow and fill the awkward silence following their dismissal of you. For whatever reason, she broke up with you.
Try to focus on yourself and keep your mind off of her. Throw your new found time and money into a hobby or activity. Hit the gym and get rid of the extra relationship weight. Talk to your friends (not mutual ones) and go out with them.
Stay off of social media and delete it if it's to tempting.
Avoid talking to her or any kind of communication with her until you have no interest in talking to her. Avoid mutual friends for a little while, while their intentions may be good, they can make things worse if they aren't careful.
Plus it's to tempting to ask about the ex and how she's doing. Good luck man, we've all been there and things get worse before they get better, but they do get better.
It's not a girl thing. It's a social group dynamic thing. When two people are part of the same social core, it is simpler if everyone can at least pretend to get along. Women are subject to this as much as men are. I doubt your mutual friend is advising you to be friends because she has a vagina. She would just rather minimize the drama. It is expediency talking, not maliciousness.
Friends you don't have in common will be way more likely to advocate for cutting contact. Which is what I would personally advise. A difficult breakup requires a hard reset which is harder to achieve if the ex is still in your life.
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